Research has shown that staying angry for 3 days means you are not in love. I’m not saying being in love takes away your right to being offended, what i mean is that, that type of anger that becomes hatred.
Once you are settled into a relationship, it can be surprising how many petty little arguments you find yourself having. Most relationship fail because couples fight with pride more than they work in love. In some cases you find yourself having the same arguments over and over again…Very often you think you are having the argument that you think you are, but you are having a completely different argument. So in this case you have to be very sensitive to what your partner is saying…whether verbal or non-verbal, EFFECTIVE Communication is very vital in the success of any relationship. Like John Grossman will say, “Silence is not the absence of something, but the presence of everything”.
Here is an example. Most couples get into arguments about whose turn it is to sweep the house,who swept it last, who washed the dishes last… Honestly, its only dishes,does it matter who does what? Now you see, that’s not the real issue, the real issue is, one person feels taken for granted and thinks their good nature is being exploited. So if you find yourself repeating the same argument over and over again,then that’s what you have to discuss if you want to get to the bottom of it. Don’t raise your voice, improve your argument.