It doesn’t matter how much two people love one another they must be developmentally compatible and have a willingness to be concious. The road will surely get tough and love alone will not be enough to keep you.
Healthy relationship requires more than lofty pressures of emotional simulations. There are factors that are more important than being in love and the success of your relationship hinges on these factors.
Let’s look at the truth about love…but first understand that the problem with idealizing love is that it causes us to develop unrealistic expectations about what it can do for us. #letYourHeadGuideYourHeart.
1). Love ≠ compatibility.
Just because you love someone doesn’t necessarily mean they are good partners for you. Love is an emotional process. Compatibility is a logical process. The two don’t blend together very much. It’s possible to fall in love with somebody who doesn’t treat you well, has different ambitions and life goals and has a philological belief that clashes with your own sense of reality.
2).Love doesn’t solve problems.
While love may make you feel better about your relationship problems, it doesn’t actually solve any of it. Let me explain… When I was in yr3 in the university, I had a girlfriend I was madly in love with. But we had different psychological orientation. We had weekly bouts of meaningless drama. Every time we fight we come back to each other and remind ourselves how crazy we are about one another. We felt we were overcoming the issues when on the practical level, nothing had changed.
Unsurprisingly the relationship crashed and burst into flames. Emotions can be intoxicating but unless there’s a stable and practical foundation beneath your feet, love is not enough.
3). Love & Sacrifice.
One of the defining characteristics of loving someone is that you are able to think outside of yourself. Love is not always worth the sacrifice. The question that should often be asked is what are you sacrificing and is it worth it?
In a relationship, it is normal for both people to occasionally sacrifice their desires, needs and time for one another. It’s a big part of what make relationships great.
But when ambitions, life’s purpose and ones self respect is being sacrifice then that is a problem.
A love relationship is suppose to supplement our individual identity and not to damage or replace it.
Don’t allow love consume you or you become a shell of the person you once were.